10 things we all do that make us unhappy.

Recently I’ve noticed that I haven’t been keeping joyful for quite some time now. Then I decided to take a step back and see what I was doing that made me feel so sad.
Here is my list of what makes us unhappy most of the times.
1) Talking to “that” friend: let’s face it, we all have that one person whom we consider or considered as a friend but when you get off the phone or finish speaking with the person, you feel drained and you wonder why, (in case you don’t have one such friend, maybe you’re the friend 😛). We all have gossip mongers amongst us too. So, what do you do? DISMISS such people from your life. Put people who make you feel alive on the front bench. I’ve done it and it feels awesome! It’s worth the effort!!
2) A blast from the past: I’ve been guilty quite a few times for this. But the one thing I sure know is that the past may be a nice place but nothing beautiful grows there. Whenever you see your past, acknowledge it but do not open the door for it.
3) Social media: Facebook, Twitter and Instagram are flooded with with posts and pictures of people travelling, people getting married, some even having kids. This makes you feel like you’re not doing anything worthy. But I feel that maybe if we disconnect, even if it’s for a bit and view our achievements it’ll be so much better.
4) Seeing what we DON’T have: Why don’t we see how truly wonderful we are? There’s no harm in knowing or even perceiving ourselves as the awesome-est people ever. (Warning: too much could lead to narcissistic  tendencies, so let’s tone it down a notch whenever we have to)
5) Not talking about how we truly feel:  I cannot lay enough emphasis on this. I am one of those who don’t express enough. End result is that I always end up getting frustrated. It’s not healthy to keep so many things inside of you. Let’s learn to open up without the fear of being ridiculed or judged.
6) Not smiling enough: Ah well!! Let’s brighten the world with our smiles shall we? You’ll feel better and so will the other person seeing you. Let’s all smile more. However doing this is in all situations will lead to people thinking you’re cuckoo. So use your head and smile.
7) We all need to learn to acknowledge when we feel the need to break down: We’ve been through this road before. But the way I look at it, it feels as though we’re ashamed in just admitting the fact that we feel the need to break open the dam. But it’s okay. It really is. I can tell you for fact that I cry whenever I feel the need. The world does look better after that. You feel better and your stress and tension reduce. And it’s never unmanly to cry.
8) Not enough hugs: This part is personally my favourite. I love hugging. And I also love receiving hugs. Hugs do make you feel better and they’re a lifesaver. So let’s hug people we love or are close to more. It makes us all feel special. So why not?
9) Not connecting with one another face to face: With the advent of social media and smartphones, we no longer feel the need to talk to people face to face. Imagine the amount of disrespect we give people when we answer a call or respond to a text when we’re talking to them or are even engaged in an animated conversation. Let us forget about our phones when we’re in our intimate friend circle and catch up on life. This one should be done offline and not online.
10) Routine, routine and more routine: We are so used to routine in our lives that we’ve forgotten how to live. Most of the times we don’t realise that it’s our routine that gets to us. I know a friend who loves breaking his routine time and again only cause it makes him feel better. Routine starts getting to you. Maybe it’s time for us to break our habits and come out of this shell because life truly begins outside of your comfort zone.

All said and done, let’s all try to not be the reason for our unhappiness. Let’s all choose to be happy now. I’ve come to realise that life is too short to be anything but happy.